Fair Weather Friends

What is a fair weather friend? We all have them. They're the ones who call you when they're upset or want to hang out when they're alone. They lean on you when they need you but once you want the favor returned they're busy or change the subject somehow. Worse, they may even make you feel ashamed of how you feel or what you want from them. Sometimes it feels like the only reason you put up with it is because you've already put in so much effort that stopping now just seems like a waste.  Sometimes you need to stand up for yourself and make the difficult decision of letting go of these types of people as rewarding as that relationship use to be. Memories can't sustain a relationship. The trick here is to not be resentful and welcome them back with open arms if they one day turn a new leaf.


If you really care for someone, you will care for them through the ups and the downs, through thick and thin, through the good and the bad, for better or for worse... Love and friendship need to be based on this type of mutually fulfilling bond. The connection of sharing happiness and pain is the most basic of human interaction.


Of course there are those that take much more that they give. I admit I have been one of them..not necessarily a 'fair weather friend'..but a friend who keeps asking for more and more support without giving as much back. Some of the best people I've lost was due to my own inability to empathize or sympathize with them, which I will forever carry as a weight of regret on my shoulders. Now I think to myself that it's okay to ask for support as long as I let the other person know that I will always do the same for them..and mean it. You can't control how much support you need, but you can control how much you want to give. I vow that I will do my best to help those in need, financially, mentally, and emotionally (not physically as I have weak girly arms.....har har).


Truth of the matter is, that when my time is up in this sparkly turquoise world that I want to be remembered as a good person who did her best to help people no matter how small or big the gesture. Selfishly, I want to continue to search for others who have the same values I do as well as nurture my relationships that are already like this. For those of you who have listened to me scream, whine and cry, I thank you for taking the time to be there for me to pick me up when I feel I can walk no more. I cherish you and I promise to return the favor.As immature, whiny, impatient, materialistic, vain, tempermental person that I am, I know that I have one good quality that I will seek to grow throughout my life: a good heart - one that will protect and support those I care about.


What's your best quality? How can you empower others with it?

xoxo,
Hanny

The Fence

There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily, gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.

Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper.
The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said “you have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one.”

Moral of the story: Be careful of what you say because you might regret it later.
 

- Author Unknown

xoxo,
Hanny

I am the dog whisperer

If you are already my friend on facebook you've probably seen her on my page (or at least know that I have a dog name Keiko). Keiko is my pride and joy. To this day she is still probably the single most expensive thing (well not 'thing' but you know what I mean) that I have purchased. I bought her on impulse when I was obsessing about puppies. At first I was insistent on buying a chihuahua, but I suppose the heavens had other plans. I believe that every person that enters my life comes for a Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime. I will explain this further down but it's pretty self-explantory.

 Story time! I met a guy friend who was in the same faculty as I was during university. I was in 1st year and he was in second. Truth be told, we don't even talk anymore and I can't even tell you what his last name is. I randomly hung out with him one summer day and he had the cutest, scruffiest little mop of fluff dog name "Iota" pronounced "EE-OH-TA." Iota looked like a furry little caterpillar; sometimes it was difficult to tell which was his front and which was his back lol. My friend had to go somewhere for a weekend so he asked me if I would be able to take care of his puppy. I've never been allowed to have a dog at my parents' house, let alone take care of one over a whole weekend....so I did it without consulting them! They fell in love with him surprisingly, and I knew at that moment that I was meant to get a shih-tzu and not a chihuahua. I returned Iota back to my friend and due to courses, lack of mutual friends, and plain-loss-of-interest, I never really talked to him again! However, I will never forget him because without him, I would never have thought to get my precious lil' baby Keiko.

Point is, my friend came as a "Reason" in my life. Ever heard of that little story? I'm too lazy to retype it and you've probably read it so if you're really that interested click here. People come and go a lot in my life and I always like to classify them as "Reasons, Seasons, or Lifetimes. I guess "reasons" are always the easiest to spot since they are there the shortest amount of time. The reverse is true too: "Lifetimes" are harder to recognize because, well, it takes your lifetime! I guess I'll blog who were my lifetimes when I'm lying in my death bed.


Okay no more depressing things. On to some pretty pictures of my baby and me!

Keiko with her siblings! Keiko is on the furthest right with the biggest head lol. Beside her is her brother, sister, and other brother that's only barely peeping out from behind. Don't let the picture fool you though...she's the smallest of the bunch. Only her head is the biggest.

Keiko with her first little McDonald's happy meal toy that I swiped from work. Look how small she was!

Her favorite outfit: spider outfit. Jk. She hates it.

Me & Keiko on my 24th birthday

Like mother like daugther

xoxo,

Hanny

The Evolution of Internet from the point of view of a mid-twenty year old

Blogging is very intimidating. The last time I touched html code I was in grade 11 at high school and I remember being so proud of myself for inserting and centre aligning a picture. Even that marquee feature..does that still exist? Haha I've never felt so old and out of the loop before. *Note: Marquee is that thing that moves words from right to left* *Second note: if this still exists and is still quite common I guess I just made a fool of myself* Aiya.

Right now I don't even know how to make a post template so that all my new posts have this font and colour? I manually have to click on this light grey color and the Trebuchet font and centre align buttons. That's THREE things I have to do to post. Oh, woe is me. I'm such a noob. -_- I started this blog thinking, I'm going to be so pro. I'm going to learn every tag and widget and customizable object on this page that I can improve to reflect my style more. All the "professional bloggers" have links to their facebook, twitter, youtube and even MUSIC on their pages. In the end, I chose the template mode and moved things around with the user-friendly layout/template mode that Blogger provides. Ha! I guess I would rather be lazy than be creative. By golly wow I learned something new about myself.

I'd like everyone to think of the Internet Evolution that has occurred these past few years. It hasn't even been a decade yet and it amazes me how the Internet has changed my life.

1. Browsers: Netscape -> Internet Explorer -> Firefox/Safari

Do people still remember Netscape? Hahahha. The explorer that took forever to load up but seemed 'superior' to Internet Explorer? It had the big capital "N" as its logo. I think I started using this back in Grade 5 to look up sailormoon pictures. Remember all the 'cool' browsers? Yahoo, Lycos, Altavista, Askjeeves...errr...that's all I can remember. What happened to them all? The Internet should just be renamed to Google. No one says "Just Internet It!" afterall. I use both IE and Firefox (Yes, I am a PC, and Windows 7 was my idea). I don't see a difference so I click whatever is in my line of vision. Safari seems to be the same too. I can't tell, I don't own a mac, but I do own an iPhone. Cool points for me!

2. The chatters: ICQ, YAHOO MESSENGER, AIM, MSN,

In order, that is what I used to talk to friends. Even non-friends. Remember how ICQ had that option, 'Random chat" or something like that? Why isn't that popular anymore? I guess most people realize it isn't that fun to talk to strangers. LOL. I don't even use MSN much anymore. Who wants to chat when I can just wall post/text? Which leads me to my next point.

3. The personal websites: Xanga. Geocities. Angelfire. Asianavenue (aka "AA"), Blogger

 I actually never had any of these. Okay I lied, I made an angelfire one that I never updated. I don't even remember the address for it anymore. A lot of my friends back in Grades 8 through 10 had it though. I remembered thinking, "WOW. They are so cool and smart. How do they own a piece of the Internet?!" Yes, I was quite dumb. I guess the only one left is Blogger, but that's only because it's still relatively 'new.' Defintely more user friendly. Actually, I can't pretend I know because I don't know how easy/hard it was to use the other sites. I'm such a poser.

4. The social websites: Friendster, Myspace, Facebook, Linked In
I guess this is more of the "present" now. Minus Friendster which is not cool anymore. NOT COOL okay? I think myspace will eventually fall off the face of the planet too once people realize how trashy it has become. Myspace is like the popular snobby hot girl in highschool and facebook is like the classy and smart kid that everyone liked. In the end, you'll all grow out of Myspace! Hahahhaha. What a waste of your precious 100 hours of your life updating everything.

 We're all getting so lazy to update our OWN personal sites that the social media ones have become even more popular. Think about it, they are the ultimate blogger template lol. You don't have to really learn anything and you don't need to be creative because all the pages look the same! I think I actually like that better because you will always know where to click to stalk learn about the person you are viewing. I feel like there's so much information overload that I just want everyone to have only one website, one email, one contact number, ....no creativity! It just takes up too much space in my brain for me to learn everything about your life and it's like a drug! I don't really gain much use from learning what your favorite food and/or makeup is, but for some reason I really like to know?! WHY? Why are we all so curious about each others' lives?  Okay now this sounds like a rant which I don't mean it to be. I am such a hypocrite lol.

5. Miscellaneous: Blogs, Twitter, Youtube, Ebay, Skype
My boredom factor is starting to kick in so I better blog quick before I lose interest. Oh..no....starting....to...lose..interest...getting...painful..to..continue...typing. Okay. I failed. No more typing I'm tired now. I hate to end my post on a stupid note but I need to get my day going! Blogs, Twitter, Youtube, Ebay ...I'm sure all the 20 somethings that are reading this post know what I'm talking about. It seems like there's so much new things to see and learn that it makes me wonder how much time we should learn any one program or site because everythings becomes obsolete so quickly!  Note to self: do not post overly long blog posts that might eventually become obsolete.

...I guess I already failed that one, huh?